Retail therapy often involves buying shoes | Staff columnists
Life is so much better when you wear nice shoes.
It’s a conclusion I’ve come to from listening to hundreds of women speak over the years.
Women derive deep satisfaction from shoes.
Shoes can bring joy even when they are not on your feet. When a woman introduces a new pair to the workplace, they all share the excitement.
I knew a woman who couldn’t wait to help her friend choose shoes. She wasn’t even going to buy any for herself.
I sympathize with women. I think of the pressure they feel to wear attractive shoes every day. A woman said, “You are a guy. You don’t have to wear pretty shoes.
But maybe I have it all wrong.
Perhaps attractive shoes are one of their greatest sources of happiness. Men make their life so difficult that they have to grab all the joys they can.
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No wonder they are turning to retail therapy.
Over the years, I’ve learned that you can be a style icon at any age.
Some women are known for wearing cool shoes. They regularly receive admiration from their peers. When a woman compliments another for having super cute shoes, it’s always followed by the same question: “Where did you buy them?”
The elation becomes even greater if she has made a good deal out of it.
Sometimes I feel jealousy in women. A colleague once said that a woman had “strangely small feet”. I think she meant that as a compliment.
Being a woman sometimes means sacrificing comfort for style. But they welcome satisfaction when it is available.
I heard a woman say, “These are by far the most comfortable shoes I’ve ever had in my life.
Apparently you can get cuter shoes if you have small feet. “I much prefer a size 6 to a size 8,” my friend Carla said.
No matter how much we wish, not everyone can be blessed with small feet.
My daughter says her friends “are healthy corn-fed girls with big feet.”
My wife says if she had small feet she “would have been Imelda Marcos”.
Yes, some men get their kicks from kicks. Lots of guys collect expensive tennis shoes. And rich and elegant men buy Italian moccasins.
But women talk a lot more about shoes than men.
A good pair of shoes can improve a person’s life.
I also learned that shoes can be a weapon. My friend Tom told me that once a woman killed a man with her stiletto.
Sometimes obituaries mention a woman’s love for shoes.
Dorothy Thompson of Grand Island, for example, “especially liked shopping for shoes and had an extensive collection.”
Another shoe fan was Joleen McDowell of Grand Island. Earlier in her life, she worked in a bank. “Often the bulk of her paycheck was spent on her love of shoes, a trait she passed on to her daughters and granddaughters.”
A colleague of mine, Jessica, says shoes are a fun way to express yourself. They also complete an outfit.
Another colleague, Jedaya, has 30 pairs of shoes – one pair for each outfit.
Jedaya, 22, has a pair of pink Nike Air Flow shoes. These shoes are paired with a black sweatshirt with a pink Nike logo.
“I wouldn’t feel as confident in my look if my shoes didn’t match,” Jedaya says.
My daughter, who is 35, has received countless compliments from other women for her Croc gladiator style sandals.
Women have to deal with expectations that men don’t have. Before going on a cruise, I asked a woman why she carried so many pairs of shoes. She said she needed a pair of heels for every dress she planned to wear.
This sort of thing never occurred to me.
Again, I’m not trying to put anyone down here.
I learned a long time ago not to criticize unless I walked in someone else’s shoes.
end line Jeff Bahr is a reporter for The Independent. He can be contacted at [email protected]